So the up-fitter cable needs to be connected to a relay.
The relay will be the box that the toggle switch from the light bar kit connects to. I am
guessing that the toggle switch has three cables connected to it: Ground, Power, and Switched Power (power that turns on and off as you flip the switch). Ground you will have to connect to a vehicle ground or the negative terminal on the battery, the Power you don't need, and the Switched Power becomes the output from the up-fitter switch cable.
BEHOLD MY BEAUTIFUL DIAGRAM:
Hopefully that makes sense? If not, definitely ask questions. Note that my diagram might not fully match up 100%, not sure exactly which lightbar/kit you are using so I made a few assumptions.