G/f has a 4Runner and I love it. I tried to buy one about six months ago and had a terrible experience with the dealer so I decided to wait, and lo and behold the Bronco reservations opened. I put off the purchase to buy a Bronco instead.
The 4Runner is a refined vehicle, in my opinion, but it has more capability than most anyone will ever use. I've taken her out several times in snow, rocks, rain, slush, everything but sticky mud, and it just goes. She had no idea her 4Runner was designed to do all that it has. The four wheel drive system is advanced and requires almost no input from the driver. You just put it in low, headed up hill or down, and let the vehicle walk/crawl wherever you want to go. The IFS works much better than I expected (I came from, and still own SFA vehicles). It made a believer our of me, that Toyota knows off road. The caveat is that the 4Runner isn't a rock crawler like the Wrangler. Where the IFS shines in almost all conditions, you lift a tire. The nice thing is, everything else works so well, IFS doesn't really matter. Unless you're crawling in the rocks, big rocks, IFS is fine (preferable). The thing I can't believe, is how quiet it is, driving down the freeway or over washboard road. It's sooooo quiet.
I've owned two Jeeps with SFA. They didn't ride as nice as IFS, but they were exactly what I expected them to be.
If I wanted an off road rig, I'd buy a Jeep. Jeep builds a vehicle to go anywhere, but refined it is not. They don't ride as nice, they are noisier, they are taller so getting in and out is harder. They've done a lot to make them more user-friendly, but you don't become the best off road rig by being the best on road rig. If there were a pendulum, they'd be closer to the "truck-like ride" side. As an example, I met my neighbor at the mailbox just the other day. She'd traded her well-built Rubicon and was driving a Toyota SUV. I asked her about it and her response was, the Jeep is great if you want to go to the mountains every weekend, but it's a harsh ride to work every other day of the week. She's not wrong.
The thing I wonder, based on your post, is if you want a truck. An SUV and truck are completely different in my mind, regardless of mechanical capability. So, I'd figure out what you want, truck or SUV. Then, I'd buy the Bronco. Really though, I'd probably buy the 4Runner, even though it seems like everyone has one. They're a great vehicle. If my local dealer weren't so screwed up, I'd have a six-month 2020 4Runner in the driveway and wouldn't regret not getting a Bronco.
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